I came across this great article from Wendy Wong at The Ken Blanchard Cos called Learning From Unleaderlike Moments. What a great reminder that even when we feel at our worst and most vulnerable, is when we can grow into the best of us.
I think the key to successfully leveraging the most from bad times is the following:
- Having the willingness to dwell in the pain and shame long enough to self-audit our behaviors. Why did I say or do that? What are my triggers? Who was in the wake of my bad behavior that I need to apologize to?
- Taking action instead of allowing the unleaderlike moments to continue. Identify the stress sources and take care of them, no matter how hard or uncomfortable it may be. Come clean with your team, own it and commit to doing better next time. Don't allow chronic bad behavior.
- Moving on. There is no positive benefit from lingering guilt, worry, or self-judgment. If you have done #1 and #2, you are ready to let this go and move on.