Tuesday, June 14, 2011
Rest assured that if you have an engaged employee who fails, no one will feel worse about it than they will, so your feedback through it will be vital. A borderline employee will need the post-mortem to collaboratively sift through the experience to find the valuable lessons they can leverage to improve their performance. A poor performer will tire of the consistent communication, expectations, and accountability, and will likely pick up their anchor and move on.
After all the recovery plans have been created and implemented, it is time to schedule the meeting to do a post-mortem. Here are some ideas:
• Let them talk. Think coaching, not instructing. Ask questions that allow them to process what happened and self-discover any warning signs they may have missed. A lesson learned personally has far greater power to change than accepting someone else’s truth.
• Don’t play the blame game – and stop them from playing it to. If it really was their decision that led to failure they must own it, but you also need to ease up on your urge to lecture or say I told you so. If others truly were involved in the mistake or poor decision, allow this fact to be acknowledged on one condition. They must also acknowledge what they personally could have done to influence other’s behavior to have achieved better results. How can they be more successful working with and through others going forward?
• What lessons have been learned – what can you both take away from the experience?
• Moving forward – how can you help them re-establish credibility or trust? Identify what resources may be missing to assist them.
• Remind them of past success – you don’t want to make them fearful of risking again. Build their confidence. Remember that they will beat themselves up worse than you ever will. You can verbally communicate a safe environment, but if your actions at any point contradict this message, there will be no growth in performance or personal ownership. Check in intermittently with your staff to ask how effective you are being in delivering a consistent message of safety in risk taking.
The only way to delegate more is to trust more. The only way to build trust is to give people room to prove themselves, including the risk of failing. Keep the conversation objective, make it safe for them to try new things and grow, and if things don’t go as planned, ask what contingency plans he/she would have put in place knowing what they know now. How can you both use that information for the next time? Don’t stop providing autonomy because of failure; be there to give them what they need, just when they need it. Someone somewhere gave you an important chance to learn and grow. Be that someone for your team.
What city am I in? Was 906 my hotel room number from last night or last week? When I walk into the parking lot, I go to the blue car then realize that was from the day before. What color was that car I picked up last night? Toyota or Nissan?
If only my body kept up with changing time zones as well as my phone does.
I walked into Enterprise to pick up a car last week and was surprised to find they couldn’t find my reservation. Until I realized I made my reservation with Hertz.
My iPhone lets me set appointments, but doesn’t clarify in what time zone they are in. Sorry to the client with whom I tried to schedule a conference call at 5am PDT; that was intended for 8am PDT.
The NetJet people email me to taunt me, as I am pretty sure I can never fly on a private jet because that would just ruin me for commercial air travel ever again. I also don’t dare consider the cost – probably a year’s worth of health insurance premiums for my family.
It’s official, US Air does have the most bitter flight attendants in the industry.
I have met the most amazing people through the work I do, and am honored that they trust me enough to let me peek under the covers. I am blessed to still be in business after the last 3 years, still have my home, and still have health insurance for my family. I so appreciate my supportive husband and beautiful daughters who flex and roll with this crazy, unorthodox, non-traditional life, without complaint.
If I meet you on a plane, I ask for your forgiveness in advance if I seem a little spacey. Jet lag. Life jag.