As we wind down this year (and this decade) it’s natural to look ahead and think about what we want to accomplish in the coming year. If you are a New Year’s Resolution maker, consider using these pointers that leverage EQ to help you be more successful in reaching them. I also want to take this opportunity to thank you for being part of Shirkani's Musings readership, we appreciate your willingness to allow us to share our experiences with you and we wish you much good health and prosperity in 2020!
As you know, the stick rate of new year’s resolutions is pretty low so here are some emotionally intelligent things that can be done to improve the odds:
- Be realistic – using the first R in EQ “Recognize” leverages the insights of self-awareness to pick goals that are within our reach. If you have never been a runner, don’t set a goal to run 5 miles a day. Start small and set a goal to run or even walk 1 mile a day. Or don’t say you will lose 20 pounds. Instead, commit to losing one pound per month.
- Build in accountability – the second part of EQ is “Reading” as in reading others and situations accurately. Using situational awareness, pick times to articulate your goals to others who can both challenge you if they see you backsliding and support you when you need it to follow through
- Celebrate success – a big part of resiliency comes from our ability to “Respond”, using our self-control to stay consistent in our behavior when faced with headwinds. When feeling weary or tempted to quit, focus on what you have accomplished, not what you haven’t. Use that positive emotion to give yourself credit and fuel confidence to keep pursuing your goals.
Another characteristic of EQ is self-actualization. As defined by Maslow, “…the desire to become more and more what one is, to become everything that one is capable of becoming.” Therefore, goal setting and personal growth are built into daily habits for those with high emotional intelligence.